No B.S. when Life's a Mess | HOLSPARK

If you are stuck and struggling in life, this book will help get you to a better place fast.

If you are doing well in life, there are chapters that will increase the quality of your living exponentially. 

But what excites me most is getting this book in the hands of young people BEFORE they end up in survival mode. 

This is a guidebook on SUCCESS. Success that isn’t taught in school.  The most important lessons we NEVER had. 

Who Is This Book For

I wrote it for 20-something females. But here’s who reading it.

  • Yes, 20-something females who are struggling, stuck and trying to find their way to a better place
  • 16-19 year olds so they won’t actually need this book in their 20s
  • Moms and Dads of 20-Somethings and Teens (usually end up giving to their child)
  • 40-50 year old women who wished they had this “training” in their 20s and want to incorporate it now.
 

Why I Wrote This Book

 

 I received a Facebook message from a 21-year-old girl who used to be an employee at one of the three fitness centers I used to own. In the message she shared that she had just lost her job, she had been evicted from her apartment, and her car would soon be repossessed. Her husband had an injury from a car accident they had been in earlier in the year, so he couldn’t leave for military duty as planned. Her mom was a raging alcoholic and in an abusive relationship with a man who had just beaten her up very badly. This young lady was trying to help her mom and her husband. She was stressed to the max emotionally and mentally. She had no money or financial reserves, and to top it off she was pregnant. 

I started writing her an email back to give her advice, support, and some love. I just wanted to give her a big hug and share some words that somehow might help. I started writing, and what was meant to be an email became this book.

 

When I started the email, my thoughts were: What can I possibly share that will make a difference? What would be the “emergency” steps I’d give someone to course correct her life starting now? What would be the least amount of information with the most powerful punch? What would help someone get out of survival mode and into thrive-al mode in the shortest amount of time? What would be the most important things a young girl could do to start moving her life from surviving to thriving?

 

What many people don't know about me is that I was a depressed teen who barely made it out of high school, I was 40 lbs overweight by 19, 40k in debt by 22, and had a college degree that prepared me for 2 things: entry level sales jobs and waiting tables (I did both). I was in a constant state of struggle and survival.

Skip ahead...I lost 40lbs, ran my first marathon, worked my way out of debt in 3 years, and at age 26, opened my first business,1 of 3 fitness centers I would have. By age 33, I had built $1 million in assets (fitness centers, additional businesses and real estate investments) and was thriving in life.

 

I DID ONE THING RIGHT.

I put myself through and intensive 6 year self study of certain success principles and Universal Law. From the ages of 20-26, I studied and put into practice what I was learning. It changed my life. It changed who I was as a person, and who I wanted to become.

 

I realized the knowledge and the principles I learned could be applied to achieve anything in life. Which, I thought was pretty FREAKING awesome.

I also had another less pleasant feeling and thought deep within me. WHY isn't this stuff taught in every school? Why don't we learn this from our parents?

The answer is: they simply do not know.

But, I know. And this has become my WHY.

There are far too many young women (and men, but this is for the girls!) struggling in life. And they are not getting the direction or knowledge that would truly help them break free of struggle and survival.

“This is the information I wish I’d had at 16, at 18. This book has the power to change lives. I’m fired up to guide female, especially young females, and to usher in a new system of “education” and mentoring for true success.”

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Book Testimonials

Great Book for the 20-Something Crowd!  

What a positive, inspiring book for young women today! This quick read provides clear, realistic, and spot-on advice for any young woman struggling to make sense of the crazy demands of the world in which we live. Hollie Flynn writes with practical wisdom and provides a structured method for goal-setting, applicable to the 20-something crowd. As a professor who works with this age group, I see this book as an incredibly valuable tool. 

Kathryn Elmore

Great For Any Woman! Transform Your Life

Oh, how I wish this book had fallen into my lap in high school or college. How fantastic that would have been!

Ever wish you had a big sister who could walk you through your life challenges? That's what this book is - told in the caring style of someone who's been there, literally guiding you every step of the way. (I suggest the print copy of the book, so that you can fill it in like a workbook.)

So, what do you want to change? What do you want to make better in your life?

While this is a short read, it's very powerful - and honestly, I think women of all ages could use it. We can all use reminders that we're in control of our own life, and that we can make changes. Change is hard. It's complicated. And I love that NO B.S. helps you break it down to make it more manageable.

Still looking for your dream life? Or even just a better life? This handy little book can help you get there. Not sure what you want? That works too - Hollie Flynn walks you through the process of getting clear on your dreams, goals, and ideals.

The book is in short focused chapters - I think this setup could make it great to do a chapter a day, or a chapter a week so you can really focus on changing. In addition, the brevity of the chapters really allows you to get to the core of the message easily, quickly, and (mostly) gently.

I would definitely buy this book for any young women I knew - and likely any woman looking to greatly change her life! 

Kristen

Easy read that is jam-packed with the ‘how-to’ for pursuing ...

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Hollie has put together a quick, easy read that is jam-packed with the ‘how-to’ for pursuing your dreams and making them your reality. This guide is directed to young girls who are struggling, but HEY!! any girl, gal, lady, woman should get their hands on this AND THEN, after reading it, pass it on to the men in their lives…so they know what’s ahead! No kidding. We need to share this information with everyone we love! Already looking forward to Hollie’s next book. 

Stella Rae

I felt like the author wrote this just for me! A MUST-read for all young women!

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I'm so glad I stumbled upon this book, it encompasses all the life lessons that I wish someone had told me 10 years ago! It's never too late :) What I love most is how practical the book is. It's a quick, but deep, read and structured in a way that it took me on a journey of transformation from start to finish. I've found myself going back to look up nuggets of wisdom (or 'Hollie-isms', as I like to call them) to get me through present moments of stuck-ness. This book is very action-oriented, and covers all areas of life while building confidence and courage, what more could a girl want?! It would make a great gift for daughters, nieces, friends, anyone! I think the favorite gem that I've implemented since getting this book is the morning manifestation exercise - game changing! I already have someone in mind who I'm going to 'pay it forward' and pass the book to - thank you, Hollie, for sharing your gifts with the world! 

Happy Reader

Powerful!

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As a father of two daughters and as someone who has devoted my life to helping young people, I love this book and can see the tremendous impact it will/can have on young females of any age. What I like best about the book is actually in the title; there is no B.S. Hollie has given her readers straight, no-nonsense critical advice to help guide them to live a life of meaning, fulfillment, and happiness. But what I love most about the book is that you can "feel" Hollie's passion and her concern for the young women who will read this book. Everything she writes about, she has experienced; and she continues to live by her advice, which makes her the perfect author and coach for anyone who reads. I will definitely recommend this book to my colleagues and friends who are raising daughters. 

J. Mor

Your daughter needs this book, and you need to read it too!

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Being a dad of a rapidly growing teenager, I read this book in hopes of gaining some insight into the struggles of young women. What I found was a wealth of knowledge, which not only has helped me to be a better father, but also insights into the hurdles and pressures we all face. I'm totally recommending this read to my daughter and hope that she keeps it close for WHEN she needs it. 

Amazon Customer

Take on higher education has great insights for girls in their 20s and struggling

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The No B.S. take on higher education has great insights for girls in their 20s and struggling. Perhaps one of the reasons they are struggling is because society at large expects them to go to college but it's just not the right path for them. Thus, they live out a self- fulfilling prophecy, so to speak, of feeling that they are worthless. More young people should know that alternate paths exist and are valid.

Hollie has a magical way of putting words together in such a way to inspire and motivate anyone. After reading this book, I took away some inspiration myself as well!

- Teri Wagner, PhD, mom of 24-year-old daughter. 

I think there will be many people -yes mostly young women-(but even myself at 59) who will find ways to apply the greater good 

I just finished reading this book online- I meant to read it when it first came out...but as noted in the book -life is messy. I think there will be many people -yes mostly young women-(but even myself at 59) who will find ways to apply the greater good found in this read. I wrote a page of clarifying and self support statements while reading it. I love the frankness.. things are too often couched in vague and misleading terms... not in this book- get it read it and get to work ladies ... your best life is totally attainable. Your heart your friends your family will thank you someday.

Joy

Turn Your Mess into a Miracle

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If someone bought you this book for a present or told you where to find it, send them a "thank you" because they see you as GREAT, as POWERFUL, as WISE, as LOVELY, and as COMPASSIONATE, and are wanting to help boost your light so you and everyone else can see it too. If you got this book for yourself, then you already know you are AWESOME and deserve all the good things life has to offer. No B.S. is a practical guide to a living life fully. Enjoy!

Danita St. Clairon

A great read. Working with the 20 something crowd for ...

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A great read. Working with the 20 something crowd for years-I wish I had access to this book a long time ago. Hollie tackles major life topics with wisdom and humor. This book demands that you take action and begin to make substantial changes in your thinking. Hollie has a way of writing that makes you feel like she is right there in the room with you cheering you on and pushing you to reach for more in and for your life.

Julie S. Maina

Making meaning out of life messes

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A great gift in many ways - to those that are struggling through those years of finding a way through chaos...and for those that love them. Highly recommend for folks who want to help these young women thrive and grow into capable, competent individuals who can help others do the same!

Dhidakinion

 

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I have to begin with what an impact your book had on me. The direct reflection and correlation I found mirroring my own life's trials was astounding, almost eerie. This book is a huge source of inspiration for not only the 20's generation but the mother's who survived the 20's generation and hope for a better road for their daughter's (I have 2 beautiful daughters).

Valerie Roberson

As a 23 year old having recently been in survival mode, I understand all too well the struggle that most women in their 20s face. The advice in this book is authentic, real-world driven, and a priceless tool for any young woman who is ready to put her life in her own hands.

Erica Therese, 23 year old

Hollie, your book is amazing! I just finished reading it. I found it incredibly empowering and VERY helpful.  I LOVED IT! I am definitely going to do all the activities in the book, being that I am in a better place, but no my dream place. One step at a time. 

Morgan, 22 year old

 

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